WAITING FOR THE RIGHT ONE

You may have all your requirements set. All the pros and cons well spelled out, prayerfully and watchfully waiting for the right one to come along. It may seem like an exhausting wait, sometimes even impossible to imagine. The “kissing many frogs” fairy tale does not sound, in any way, impressive. Some may leave you with scars only the touch of Christ can heal while as for some, the idea of ever loving again becomes a far-off dream. However, being a child of God, the Lord has opened my eyes and revealed to me the easy way out. Sleep.

It may sound absurd and impractical; however, it is where the secret for a lasting relationship and marriage lies. The renowned preacher, Jon Courson, in his sermon, A Match made in Heaven, made me look at relationships and courting from a whole new perspective. For a Christian, relationships should not be a matter of trial and error. Matters relationships touch the core of the heart. Therefore, in order to avoid unnecessary heartbreaks and disappointments, there are a few basic pointers that can guide you in the right direction. Prayer, fellowship and the word of God are the major building blocks in ensuring that a Christian is not led away from the will of God as far as relationships are concerned.

As a born-again youth, the challenges of relationships you face may not largely differ from those of the unbelievers. However, you stand a better chance at overcoming these hurdles since you have a Father in heaven who knows your needs even better than you do. Therefore, by learning to trust in God and totally surrendering to His will, He will guide your steps and you will not fall. This is what now resonates with sleep. Matthew 7:11 puts it perfectly. “If you, then though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him!” This verse reassures us of God’s faithfulness and we are left to do nothing else but just trust in Him. God will give you the best. So don’t get ahead of yourself. He is in control. You just need to sleep as Adam did. (Genesis 2:21)

As you go through the divine sleep, you are not supposed to just stay idle and dream about your future spouses. At this point, you have the chance to serve God and engage in establishing His Kingdom here on earth. This can involve taking part in various ministries especially missions which are very empowering. Temptations will always come but you are expected to stand firm. You should never compromise or reason with sin. Sin is sin and that is it. Our minds should be set on winning this war. The Lord promised that His grace will be sufficient. So, just hang in there. Jesus was tempted too and He remained blameless. We can strive for that as well.

Through time and experience, I have come to confirm Jon Courson’s exhortations. For us to avoid ending up with the wrong partner, there are some basic truths about ourselves we need to be aware of. We were made in the image of God. Therefore, just as God is a triune being and so are we. As a human being, you have the body, the soul and the spirit. All of these aspects of your being have to be well corresponded in a relationship. This fact is quite helpful in ensuring that you correctly identify your life partner and it also helps to avoid relating with the wrong person.

In the area of the body, there is physical attraction between you and the potential partner. This however should not be confused with a crush, which is superficial. With this kind of attraction, there is a mutual romantic spark. It might not be from the word ‘go’ but with time, if he/she is the one, it might just spark into a romantic fire. For the soul connection, it will be manifested through good communication and getting along. You have to be soul mates. It might sound like a cliché, but here, I mean it in every sense of the word. Your souls have to be in sync. Your view of life, your priorities and backgrounds have to blend easily. They don’t have to be the same, but all you need is to be comfortable with one another despite your differences. With the spirit, it involves your levels of spirituality. For your relationship to work out, your spiritual levels have to be at par. Your level of commitment to God has to be almost the same. Your Godly values have to be on the same wavelength. All these three areas have to be in check for your relationship to last through time and the storms that come with it.

You may have two out of the three but then, that will be a disabled relationship. It will need a lot of work to survive. You will find yourselves spending more time solving issues rather than actually being there for one another as it should be in a relationship. It is not too easy, waiting for the right one. With whom you will adequately correspond in all the three areas of your being. However, the beauty and comfort that comes with all the three being present makes it worth the wait. So be patient and sleep, the Lord is preparing someone special for you.

Oh! I promise, to be true to you.

To live my life, in purity as unto you,

Waiting for the, day that I will hear you say,

Here is the one; I have created just for you.

Jaci Velasquez – I promise